“…I love you mommy…”
To say the events at club Pulse in Orlando, Florida are beyond belief, sad, infuriating and obviously without merit would be and is a gross understatement.
Like thousands of others I heard of the events the next morning when I awoke, like others I found myself numb and without any real visible reaction; of course I was aware of the level of death and destruction it just did not have an immediate affect. A result of twenty-five years of direct patient care, it really does take a lot to get a rise out of me. It does not mean that internally things are not going a million miles a second.
As is the case with large incidents such as these the “fog” that roles in is thick and takes time to cut through. The media is on hyperactive, social media is having its melt down with wild theories being bandied about like they are two for a dollar.
It’s this time that drives me crazy. It’s this time that people “think” they know what has happened; they “think” they have their finger on the artery of the problem because they know, “someone, who knows someone.” Or, they had a family member who was involved in Police or Emergency services and “they” have herd their stories and anecdotes about that life style and what they have seen and “they” feel this gives them some insight. We also have our “leaders” who are trying to sort through this very same fog, this cloud of confusing information. They have a constituency that is in need of information, something, and anything. The “Fog” is big and nasty.
It is during this time that I become very quite and simply monitor the news feeds, pay attention to what the officials are saying. I’m trying to filter out the “non-information” I am also staying quite because I really have nothing constructive to say about the situation. I do so wish more would take this tack.
I do understand though that people need to vent, they feel like they have to put out an opinion or speak their feelings immediately. I guess to those if you must say something, try to be constructive. Try to avoid inflammatory language and rhetoric, as this is simply unhelpful. If you feel like you must do something please try to help out, but ask what kind of assistance is needed then by all means help.
As for me, right now I was doing really well until I read the text message that snippet above came from. I read this and it cut me right to the quick. That fast my defenses came shattering down it completely and utterly broke my heart.
That message was written by someone who thought they were going to die, (I have not looked any deeper to find out what happened to this person, I will) but he was calling out for his mommy, not his mom, HIS mommy.
Think about it for a second. Think about when you were small and things were going bad for what ever reason. Who did you call for? I imagine a great number of you called out for mommy! Mommy, the only person in the universe who could fix anything. Mommy!
As for me, I’m still not certain I have anything constructive to say about any of this just right now. My emotions are still very high. This is not to say that I don’t have opinions or ideas I personally am in my information-gathering phase still and I must say some of the early, confirmed information appears to be very interesting.
I am heart broken though. Every time something like this happens a little piece of me is taken out and shattered on the ground. We as a people are so, so mean to one another. Why? Because I’m white and you’re a different color, because you practice one religion or another and I don’t, because I like sushi and you don’t? It’s all so ridiculous.
This is the twenty first century; you think we would be able to conduct ourselves better? Nope. We have to hate and reject others because they don’t happen to fit some dogma. We have to listen to inflammatory rhetoric from a neophyte who professes to want to be our next leader. How do people get up in the morning and deal with all of this useless hate? How do people get up in the morning and look at someone and think I hate you because….x. I don’t get it.
I know that we will probably never all be able to get along. Petty squabbles are bound to happen and that is fine. But do we really need to be killing our fellow human beings because they happen to be a member of the LGBT community, because they happen to be a different color or because they choose to worship some God or another? The answer is really simple. No.